Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Things I need to stop saying

I get my sarcasm from my brother, or at least that's what I tell everybody to sound less sassy.

He called yesterday to chat about his new car that he's insanely excited about (note the horrible spelling of energi that I can't even recreate here without throwing up in my mouth a little) when he stopped being polite and started getting real: apparently my "y'all" usage has passed the point of sweet and moved into the annoying stage.

The more I think about it, the more I realize there is an entire list of things I should probably staaahp saying for my own good:

1: y'all
I think it's charming but then again, I'm not Texan (but I am starting my seventh year in Texas...insert crying here). In fact, I didn't adopt y'all until my fourth year here, so it should be easy to stop saying, right? I'm gonna need to cut this out ASAP.

2: adorable
I'm pretty sure I say this (either out loud or via text) at least 10 times a day, and that's probably an underestimation. Not everything can be adorable, Sar. Change it up. 

3: lol
I should really start saying, "I'm not really laughing out loud, but 'haha' sounds ridiculous because what you said wasn't really that funny but I don't know how else to say that." but that's a long run-on sentence.

4: stunning
I am not sure why this is my favorite adjective (in conjunction with adorable, of course), but I tend to call anything beautiful "stunning." It just sounds better.

5: So...
I have no idea where this came from, but I think it was a boss who was adamant that we don't say um ever in a presentation. I got used to withholding the ums but my brain needed something to say, thus so became the word of choice. Usually beginning a sentence such as, "So here's what I did today!," my use of so is unnecessarily excessive.

6: First off...   /   Secondly...
Blame this one on academic writing, but I can't just write an email without trying to tell a story.

7: easy peasy
Keeping this in my vocabulary probably makes me sound more like a 6yo than a 28yo, but what can I say? It makes my favorite 6yo laugh.

That's all I can think of for now (err, not true, I use grateful or thankful a ton, but I think that's a pretty darn good habit to have), but it's clear that I have some work. 

Monday, July 21, 2014

A Waco-filled Weekend

San Antonio is a cool city and all, but I barely know anybody so it feels a little lonely sometimes. Luckily I have some awesome friends only a 3hr. drive away, so I decided to head up to Waco this weekend to spend a little time with some of my favorite people. 

Saturday morning started out by taking beautiful 3rd Anniversary photos of my favorite married couple, Meg and Clint. 

After grabbing coffee with Meg afterwards and having a great girl-chat, I picked up B.Rizzle and we headed to Karenna's garage sale (since she got a baller job as a tenure track professor in Tennessee). We had a good time just chatting, catching up, and of course dancing to "Turn Down For What." It wouldn't be a B.Rizz/Sar day if there wasn't a dance session.

I spent the rest of the afternoon/evening over at Jason and Monica's house. Jas and Monica were part of my trivia team back in Waco, and Monica let us celebrate her birthday by a BBQ/pool party in their back yard (complete with a kegerator of Shock Top). 

The pool looks empty in the photo, but we actually spent a ton of time swimming, then sitting outside the pool and chatting, then a hilarious round or seven of Cards Against Humanity. I miss these people like woah.

I spent the night at Jason and Monica's and then headed back to San Antonio yesterday after grabbing lunch with Meg and Clint and leaving them with huge hugs goodbye. It was a good weekend overall! 

How was your weekend? Get any pool time?

Linking up with Meg!

Friday, July 18, 2014

How to stay friends with your exes in 5 easy steps

(Disclaimer: I should point out I'm talking about exes whom you've dated; I have no idea how to be a friend to an ex-spouse but I imagine the rules generally apply.)

My last blog I mentioned that I was dog-sitting for Mark (who has been an "ex" for a while now, but apparently I surprised y'all?). An overwhelming number of people commented, emailed, tweeted, or texted their condolences (unnecessarily, but thanks for being sweet, guys!), and the majority of those people were astounded (or impressed) that I could be friends with an ex. 

It caught me by surprise because I didn't realize this was that uncommon. Along with housesitting for Mark, I'm still besties with Chris's fam, RP3 called me the day after Paige's wedding to tell me all about it, and I was invited (but sadly couldn't make it) to Kyle's wedding (plus I read his wife Katie's blog!). I consider this the norm.

From all the comments I received, it became clear that y'all need a Life DIY about how to stay friends with your exes, even if they don't live in Texas. This can be done in a few easy steps. 

(And this is the most important.)
Don't date jerks. Seriously, don't do it. I've never dated the Bad Boy (errr, sorry to all former boyfriends who may be reading this who thought they were bad boys). I'd prefer the nice guys every dang time. I've never been the "nice guys finish last" type of gal, because I wholeheartedly believe it's not true.

(Similarly important.)
Don't be a jerk. Seriously, don't do it. This means you deserve all the respect in the world, yes, but you in turn owe it to whomever you chose to be your significant other. If you don't treat others with respect, they won't treat you that way. It goes for friends, family, and most definitely significant others.

As soon as you start feeling frustration, tell your significant other. This doesn't mean you have to break up if you get frustrated at him/her, but if something's bothering you (this can be from the way she leaves her shoes in the closet all messy, or the way he leaves the toilet seat up), you owe it to your relationship to say it before it builds up. This way, you're not hiding anything from your significant other and you're not exploding out of frustration, either. This also means there should never be any need for screaming matches or hissy fits.

When you do decide it's time to break up, do it honestly, and as soon as you realize it won't work out. This lessens the blow to the person getting broken up with, and makes the hurt a lot easier for both parties.

Don't air your dirty laundry. If one of your friends asks you why you're no longer together, be diplomatic. Tell people that it didn't work out, but you're grateful for him/her. This all goes back to #1 and #2. If you don't date jerks, the details won't matter to anybody but you. And if you're not a jerk, you'll keep it appropriate for public knowledge.

I will point out that sometimes these rules won't work. You'll start dating a non-jerk and then (s)he'll do something jerky like cheat on you (or something similarly not cool). Just use Rule #5 and be the better person. Your soul will thank you.

That's all it takes, folks. I'm positive. For all those who are friends with your exes, do you have anything to add?

Tuesday, July 15, 2014

And they called it puppy love...

(+10 cool points if you realized that was a Paul Anka reference.)

Ever since Mark and I broke up, I've been in dire need of some puppy time. [Don't get me wrong, I love Chloe (shhh, don't tell her I love dogs too), but there's something about going on a hike with a dog that makes your day.] So when Mark mentioned he was going to drop Kolton off at PetSmart for boarding and doggy daycare, I interrupted and told him he was crazy for not asking me. 

Luckily, I'm a big fan of being 1) friends with past boyfriends, and 2) pushy. Mark was hesitant at first because he didn't want Kolton to be an inconvenience, but I'm quite charming and convinced him some Sar-Kolt time was exactly what the doctor (read: me) ordered. I present, my weekend with Kolton:

"I'm just guarding the kitchen. I will make sure nothing, I repeat, nothing will touch the ground for longer than 5 seconds on my watch."

"No selfies, I want to hike!"

"It's hot and my fur is black. I'm just gonna lay down while I drink this water, k?"

"That was the best hike ever! Thaaaaanks!"

"Oh my gosh, that was the most tiring hike ever! Thaaaanks!"

"Are you awake yet? No, still sleeping? Let me lick your arm and rub my wet nose on you and maybe you'll get up to take me on a walk."

Overall, I had a fantastic weekend with Kolton. I also got some pool time, errands ran, and got some work in. But, my favorite part was cuddling with the cutest, hairiest dude I know.

Friday, July 11, 2014

A little Snoop love

Because it's Friday, and because Friday means 90s rap:

(Linked up with Whit, 'cuz duh.)

Monday, July 7, 2014

Paying-it-forward with a #GratitudeAttitude

I had 40 people sign up for my Paying-It-Forward with Gratitude project (maintaining a #gratitudeattitude, just the way I like it), which was phenomenal! (One of my Twitter friends calls this a "Generosity Philosophy," which I find adorable and I'm probably going to steal it.)

A short recap, if you didn't join in: I ordered two sets of cards: one for me to write to friends (on the right), and one to send with those cards for friends to pay it forward (on the left)!

Both cards via TinyPrint

I was able to get all the letters out in a week, and minus the two Canadians (sorry, y'all!), I was able to use spider stamps for everybody (Courtney, that was intentional for you!).

All handwriting my own, usually slowly with mistakes!

I had a blast writing to everybody, and I've already heard from a handful of people who have received theirs already (like Kelly, Sarah, Holly, Whitney, and Paige). I'm excited to hear about all the pay-it-forwards from friends and their stories about sending their own handwritten letters. 

Do you write handwritten letters or plan to send one to someone soon? Tell me about it!

Thursday, July 3, 2014

Seattle recap

Hold your horses for a picture-heavy post!

As you may have read, I went to Seattle last week for an academic conference (RSA), which I took as a partial vacation considering I was already flying to the Pacific Northwest. Behold, my trip in photos:

Upgraded to first class? Don't mind if I do.

Instead of staying in the expensive conference hotel, I stayed at Paul's (about 20ish minutes away from the conference hotel) for free! That means I did a lot of cuddling with this dude:

The conference was awesome. I presented the first full day (Sunday), which means the rest of the conference (Monday-Wednesday), I got to enjoy other presentations (and give out both my work business cards and blog business cards)! One of my favorite presentations had to do with understanding metadata encoded within tweets (with an explanation of what a tweet is):

Paul also took a few days off to spend time with me, so besides going to Seattle, we also went on a lovely evening hike up Rattlesnake Ridge

After the conference, I headed over to the peninsula to hang out with my fam! Nothing says a Washington summer trip like a convertible ride with dad (don't worry, this selfie was taken in the driveway). 

And dinner with this dude is always a fun event:

(Also, doesn't Scott look totally Adam Levine-y with that hair?!)

I also got to see my favorite Princess MooCow and Smartie Pants:

...and we took A LOT of photos. (You're welcome for only having to see one!)

I also made yet another Seattle trip with TPH since he had never been on a ferry before. (He couldn't stop saying, "We're on a boat!" and "There are seagulls!") 

I ended the trip with a Mariners game with three of my favorite people (Paul's not pictured since he's taking it; you can tell 'cuz we look so small since he towers us short people). 

Overall, it was an amazing trip! I can't wait to go back.

(Also, if you're keeping track, I've sent all but 10 of my Pay-It-Forward #gratitudeattitude cards! If you signed up for one, be on the lookout!)